It is only a few weeks since short story cat person appeared in New Yorker and spread rapidly. The fictitious narrative of Harvard lecturer Kristen Roupenian strips perhaps most intimate area in currently tense relationship between man and woman: The Limits of bad sex.
Cat person is about a 20-year-old woman who, as a cinema employee, is working on a flirt with a client, a 14-year-old man. She hits him on date and has bad sex with him.
The short story was so widely received and discussed, because it fits into current debate about everyday sexism and decision-making ability of women in sexual border situations is addressed: Why does a woman approach sexual approaches when she Just before sex doesn't feel like it? Why doesn't she say "no" when she realizes that a kiss does not taste, smell of a man is not right or sexual attraction is simply evaporated? Why does a woman not break off bad sex and can instead be persuaded by conviction that a backwarder could seem embarrassing to man, hurtful or comical?
Turning to society, following questions arise: Is this kind of female subservience already a result of patriarchal violence? is a sexual experience, initially desired but not thoroughly enjoyed in end, already a form of structural oppression? is a man who does not feel unwellness of woman in a heated moment of pleasure or ignores, or consciously or unconsciously challenges, a beneficiary of sexism, even a perpetrator in spirit of patriarchy, implicitly a rapist?
In grey area of legalThese questions are particularly relevant in context of millions of statements made under MeToo, and now refer to a case in United States that is not from literature and fiction but from real life: Last week, a woman in an anonymous report for The online magazine Babe wrote about a night with American comedian Aziz Ansari – protagonist of award-winning Netflix series Master of None – and portrayed that he had urged her to sexual practices. The text does not want to denounce rape, but practices of male violence in grey area of legal problematize.
The author, a 22-year-old photographer from Brooklyn, met comedian Ansari in September 2017 at a party. She was vying for his attention, but at first he ignored her. After a while y exchanged numbers and met on a date in Ansari's apartment. After a meal toger, Ansari urged young woman to take sexual action – it is mainly talking about mutual oral sex – and did not take note of her disturbance and gestural rejection. On way home, woman cried, used and abused, and Ansari was only n confronted with her accusations.
What is striking about portrayal is that during evening she did not seem to say "no" and did not decide to leave apartment nor to disprove Ansari with a resolute sentence. It seems ir behavior changierte between physical defense and silent participation. Only after date she wrote a text message to comedian, in which she clearly verbalized her unease. There it was said: "I just want to take this moment to make you aware of [your] behavior and how uneasy it made me." Ansari replied, "I'm so sad to hear this. All I can say is, it would never be my intention to make you or anyone feel way you described. Clearly, I misread things in moment and I'm truly sorry. "
Date Of Update: 21 January 2018, 12:03
